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Friends Speak

Friends, Supporters and Professionals share their memories, thoughts and views about Humsafar Trust from their perspecvtive.


Dr. Anuradha Menon
Psychiatrist

A few words on Humsafar Trust and your relationship with the organization?
I see Humsafar as an extremely proactive and effective organization that focuses on special issues in the community. It also does some excellent outreach work on aids related issues in special populations, especially MSM.

What role has Humsafar played in your life?
I had the opportunity to work as mental health professional in this organization, targeting the needs of the workers and burnout issues. I also worked with referred clients and drop-in clients who were felt to require counseling or any help with identity issues. I was a part of the project that dealt with HIV/AIDS issues in the MSM population of Mumbai.

Anything specific that you would like to share?
I feel that Humsafar trust is doing an excellent job as it is. The dedication and ability for hard work I was able to observe when I interacted with the workers was admirable. I do feel also that if burnout issues are continuously addressed we could get a lot more out of the workers, many of whom have an instinctive knack for community work. An open forum where the workers could focus on the daily stress they go through will help to diffuse any tensions. A structured format for this would be the best, with support from mental health professionals.



Bindumadhav Khire
Samapathik Trust, Pune

A few words on Humsafar Trust and your relationship with the organization?
HST has done pioneering work in Gay and MSM sector. I had heard a lot of negative stuff about HST from a lot of people but after getting in touch with them and seeing things in close quarters I see that HST has managed to do a huge amount of work in very very difficult circumstances. HST has been a great support for my organization And I have learned a lot from it.

What role has Humsafar played in your life?
I came in touch with HST sometime in may/June 2000. I was working in Andheri then. I met Ashok and he suggested that I start a group in Pune - Samapathik Trust. Since then my relationship with HST has been growing. My trust received training, exposure to methods of targeted intervention and funding from HST. 2 of our trustees are also closely associated with HST and Bombay Dost.

Anything specific that you would like to share?
I believe that HST needs to be less involved in the political field (Ashok is aware of the way I see things and he doesn't agree, which is fine.) I am aware
that many times his attitude is justified, but HST's detractors use excuses to provoke him (because they have nothing better to do). We need to (ALL of us) learn the art of ignoring the pisspots (a lot of them from our own community).

I feel HST may benefit by dividing itself into core groups for working in different areas like Medical issues, Legal issues, Social Change (Sensitization) etc., so that it could be better coordinated.




Dr. Hema Jerajani

HOD Skin & Dermatology, LTMG hospital
, Mumbai

A few words on Humsafar Trust and your relationship with the organization?
I have a long-standing association with Humsafar and it is going stronger day by day. The male residents of the Department have a commitment to visit Humsafar atleast thrice a week. This is done on a rotational basis so that all the residents are sensitized to deal with MSM group effectively. The medical problems of this group are also unique and therefore this kind of training is very essential. The services they provide at Humsafar are beneficial to the MSM group and I have witness the change in the scenario of health accessing behaviour of the group. I am thankful to Mr. Ashok Row Kavi and Mr. Vivek Raj Anand for their leadership in spearheading various welfare programs for the MSM group.

What role has Humsafar played in your life?
Humsafar has taught me to deal with sexuality issues boldly.
I can now convince anybody to look at the issues of MSM dispassionately and listen to the group's collective voices. I have become the staunch supporter of the group and would help the group in any capacity I can.

Anything specific that you would like to share?
I see that the group members are very talented and artistic. The world needs to be shown these hidden talents each one has. I also urge the group members to pursue their dreams.

I also feel that the Humsafar group is now poised to carry out clinical and psychosexual research. We need to add epidemiologists in the group
.


Javid Syed
Activist, New York

A few words on Humsafar Trust and your relationship with the organization?
When I left Bombay, I only knew of a few networks of queer folks and on my first visit back in 1990 I read an article in Mid-Day about Humsafar and Bombay Dost. I immediately called and have made some fast friends who, despite our differences, I have appreciated for the important and ground breaking work they do in making health services available for the queer men and transgender women communities, especially those who often face the greatest amount of obstacles.

As someone based outside of India, it was a very important for me to connect with fellow activists in my home town- Bombay, including ones at Humsafar, to recognize the ways in which our work can inform each other. This is especially true as I was working in the South Asian immigrant communities doing HIV and sexuality-based work in the US.

What role has Humsafar played in your life?
Its a place that I visit when ever I come home, its part of what it means to be home for me. Its also a constant reminder that part of a vibrant political movement requires a diversity of voices, each of whom can hopefully play a role in pushing for social justice, and each can challenge the other to work for a broader vision for liberation of not only queer people, but for all people that are impacted by a communalist government in an increasingly globalized environment in India.

Anything specific that you would like to share?
Whenever I have come to Humsafar I have been amazed by the hard work of all the staff and volunteers and the warmth with which they have created a community through the strategy of health services.

Also I have always experiences this as one of the few spaces in Bombay where hijras and gay men across incredible diversity speak about their lives as part of the same community.


Manavendra Gohil
Chair, Lakshya Trust, Gujarat

I have known Humsafar Trust right since its inception and have known Ashok Row Kavi even before Humsafar was born. For me Humsafar is like my guardian, my guide. It has given me the opportunity to be comfortable with my sexuality. Through Humsafar (Bombay Dost) I came in contact with gays in Gujarat and was able to start Lakshya, Gujarat's first CBO for MSMs, so in that respect Humsafar is my mother concern. The inspiration drawn from Humsafar has given me the courage to fight for gay related issues. I know that I can always depend on Humsafar in times of distress and expect help to come out of my problems. For this I shall be forever indebted to Humsafar and can promise to offer any kind of help in my capacity.


Dr.Mannu Singh
STI specialist, Mumbai

A few words on Humsafar Trust and your relationship with the organization?
I was associated with the Trust in the capacity of a clinician. I was working as a clinician with the Trust for 3 years. It was a very nice and and pleasant association. When we started working in the clinic, there were a lot of things that needed to be added to the site but over the past years it has become a full fledged clinic and very patient friendly.

What role has Humsafar played in your life?

It has been a very pleasant association and have learnt a lot, interaction with people and how to work in a team. Also I have realized that with good team effort and dedication things are possible as we have seen the Trust and it components grow over a period of time.

Anything specific that you would like to share?
I would like to wish the best for r the trust and hope they continue their good work as they are doing now.


Niranjan Kamatkar
Wise Thoughts, London

A few words on Humsafar Trust and your relationship with the organization?
I was associated with Humsafar Trust at its inception and was a part of the management committee of first gay conference it organized in Bombay. We have also received the support from the trust in Shiver project- dealing with South Asian women & HIV - and we saw it as a partner agency and announced it on our publicity material. (we means : Wise Thoughts, a London based arts charity dealing with issues of minority ethnic and sexual minority communities)

What role has Humsafar played in your life?
I always enjoyed Humsafar meetings on Friday in its first two year development period. In my subsequent visits to the Trust office, I was also very impressed with the services it offered, clients base reach and the progress it made in subsequent years - with the help of its eminent trustees and equally committed and very helpful staff members.

Anything specific that you would like to share?
I felt the new focus of trust's work (among grassroots community members) will give it a broader mainstream platform and opportunities to strengthen its excellent work. I was bit disappointed with the responses of some of the middle class service users (read English speaking) when they wanted a narrower role and did not wish to associate with the grassroots communities. I have met some of the present clients and stakeholders of the Trust and was very impressed with their warm, welcoming and helpful attitude.

I would be interested in making one observation: as members of minority, we need to work together with different groups and form partnership links with various other organizations. The idea that we can be the sole champion of minority has been a thing of the past. The divisions among service provisions groups have resulted in a lack of access to properly deserved resources (read global funding in HIV sector) to the community in the past. I am proud that Humsafar Trust recognized these pitfalls right from the beginning and acted accordingly.


Pawan Dhall
SAATHII, Kolkata

A few words on Humsafar Trust and your relationship with the organization?
Humsafar Trust and the people in it have been a mentor to me and the LGBT support agencies (Counsel Club, Integration) I have been involved with. Its sheer existence through the last 10 years and more has made ideas and initiatives seem possible.

What role has Humsafar played in your life?
When Integration received its first funding from abroad, Humsafar Trust played a key role in helping us access the funds by employing me as its Calcutta
outreach staff. So it has not only given me ideas, training and directions, but also bread and butter at a crucial time in my career and our agency's existence.

Anything specific that you would like to share?
It was a conference organized by Humsafar Trust (and the then Naz Project, London) in 1994 that was my first gay conference. And there has been none like that one! Not even the subsequent conferences organized by Humsafar Trust have had the same appeal that the first conference had. Not just because it was my first conference, but because it was a first for so many of us attending it and for those organizing it! The timing could not have been better
and today we look at the conference as a landmark event in the history of our LGBT movement.

Humsafar Trust in now again taking the lead in initiating the INFOSEM Network. Almost exactly 10 years from the 1994 conference. I hope to live another 10 years to look back at this milestone, which I'm sure it will be.


Rakesh Modi
Supporter, San Francisco

A few words on Humsafar Trust and your relationship with the organization?
I am proud to be one of the first persons to be involved with the formation of Humsafar Trust. I personally drafted the Memorandum of Association and other legal documents and filled out the applications to get the trust registered. After the trust was formed, I volunteered with the organization on its various projects until 1997, when I moved to USA. Thereafter, my involvement has been more in spirit, and on an advisory basis, than on a day-to-day working of the organization.

What role has Humsafar played in your life?
Humsafar has been extremely important in my life, since I got an opportunity to work and counsel LBGT folks from the community and sometimes even their families to help them be comfortable with their sexuality, and create a vibrant, focused, health conscious LGBT community in Bombay. Through this work, I not only got satisfaction, but also was able to find a 'family' outside of my immediate blood family.

Anything specific that you would like to share?
I am very glad that Humsafar is growing leaps and bounds and doing fabulous work with the LGBT community not only in Bombay, but in other parts of the country as well. The outreach work done by its numerous volunteers and staff is commendable and has by far exceeded my highest expectations. I feel very proud to be associated with such a non-profit organization and I hope to continue and strengthen this relationship in any way possible. And I also wish good luck to the trustees, advisors, volunteers, staff, administrator and the members and to the community that benefits from this wonderful organization.

 
 

 

What they say about HST

Dr. Anuradha Menon
Psychiatrist

I had the opportunity to work as mental health professional in HST and I see Humsafar as an extremely proactive and effective organization that focuses on special issues in the community.

I feel that Humsafar trust is doing an excellent job as it is… I observed the dedication and ability for hard work when I interacted with the workers and it was admirable… I also feel that if burnout issues are continuously addressed we could get a lot more out of the workers, many of whom have an instinctive knack for community work. An open forum where the workers could focus on the daily stress they go through will help to diffuse any tensions. A structured format for this would be the best, with support from mental health professionals.


Bindumadhav Khire
Samapathik Trust, Pune

I came in touch with HST sometime in may/June 2000… I met Ashok and he suggested that I start a group in Pune… I had heard a lot of negative stuff about HST from a lot of people but after getting in touch with them and seeing things at close quarters, I see that HST has managed to do a huge amount of work in very difficult circumstances.

I believe that HST needs to be less involved in the political field and that HST may benefit by dividing itself into core groups for working in different areas like Medical issues, Legal issues, Social Change (Sensitization) etc, so that it could be better coordinated.

Dr. Hema Jerajani
HOD Skin & Dermatology, LTMG hospital
, Mumbai
I have a longstanding association with Humsafar and it is going stronger day by day… The services they provide at Humsafar are beneficial to the MSM group and I have witness the change in the scenario of health accessing behavior of the group. I am thankful to Mr. Ashok Row Kavi and Mr. Vivek Raj Anand for their leadership in spearheading various welfare programmes for the MSM group. Humsafar has taught me to deal with sexuality issues boldly… I also feel that the Humsafar group is now poised to carry out clinical and psychosexual research.

Javid Syed
Activist, New York

It's (Humsafar) a place that I visit when ever I come home. It is also a constant reminder that part of a vibrant political movement requires a diversity of voices, each of whom can hopefully play a role in pushing for social justice, and each can challenge the other to work for a broader vision for liberation of not only queer people, but for all people that are impacted by a communalist government in an increasingly globalized environment in India.

I have always experienced HST as one of the few spaces in Bombay where hijras and gay men across incredible diversity speak about their lives as part of the same community.

Manavendra Gohil
Chairman, Lakshya Trust, Gujarat

For me Humsafar is like my guardian, my guide. It has given me the opportunity to be comfortable with my sexuality. Through Humsafar (Bombay Dost), I came in contact with gays in Gujarat and was able to start Lakshya, Gujarat's first CBO for MSMs, so in that respect Humsafar is my mother concern. The inspiration drawn from Humsafar has given me the courage to fight for gay related issues.

Dr.Mannu Singh
Skin specialist, Mumbai

I was associated with the Trust in the capacity of a clinician. I was working as a clinician with the Trust for 3 years. It was a very nice and a pleasant association. When we started working in the clinic, there were a lot of things that needed to be added to the site but over the past years it has become a full fledged clinic and very patient friendly.

Niranjan Kamatkar
Wise Thoughts, London

I feel the new focus of trust's work (among grassroots community members) will give it a broader mainstream platform and opportunities to strengthen its excellent work. I am a bit disappointed with the responses of some of the middle class service users (read English speaking), when they wanted a narrower role and did not wish to associate with the grassroots communities. I have met some of the present clients and stakeholders of the Trust and was very impressed with their warm, welcoming and helpful attitude.

Pawan Dhall
SAATHII, Kolkata
Humsafar Trust and the people in it have mentored me and the LGBT support agencies (Counsel Club, Integration)…When Integration received its first funding from abroad, Humsafar Trust played a key role in helping us access the funds by employing me as its Calcutta outreach staff. So it has not only given me ideas, training and directions, but also bread and butter at a crucial time in my career and our agency's existence.

Rakesh Modi
Supporter, San Francisco
I am proud to be one of the first persons to be involved with the formation and working of Humsafar Trust. Through this work, I not only got satisfaction, but also was able to find a 'family' outside of my immediate blood family. I am very glad that Humsafar is growing leaps and bounds and doing fabulous work with the LGBT community not only in Bombay, but in other parts of the country as well.

Renald Rodriques
Friend, Mumbai
Humsafar Centre when it was just founded… was like manna from heaven. The Centre was a comfort zone for many … many guys who were keen to be with their "own", and the lack of a safe house, made this centre an instant hit!! I remember, that though ' I was "out" to most people (including my family!) in my life; I still wanted to be at the centre everyday. It was intoxicating!!

Richard Winger
Supporter, USA
I was introduced to Humsafar by Ashok...it was my first trip to India… and it was striking to see gay activism and organization emerge in a place where, at least at that time and from an overseas perspective, one really wouldn't have expected it. It's given me an unforgettable insight into part of the essence of life in India and contributed to a personal bond with the country and its people that I will never loose. It's easy to be a gay activist at international conferences. Humsafar has chosen a more difficult mission: It engages in the daily struggle of making a specific difference in the life of gay individuals. And it's been in the forefront of organizing grassroots groups in India into a national movement. For that, I admire them greatly.

Saagar Gupta
Supporter, Mumbai
Humsafar Trust definitely helped in bringing the gay community closer. But as the saying goes two vessels kept together always make noise. Our community was no exception! It soon had its differences and branched out into new groups and organizations. But from an optimistic viewpoint it surely helped in taking the Indian gay movement ahead, as now there are more avenues to follow and more voices to be heard. Some may call it cacophony and the hardcore pessimists will say that it is a drop of water in the ocean. But Humsafar Trust did play a significant role in helping the community to realize and make them comfortable with their identities and inclinations.

Dr.Sameer Kumta

Microbiologist, Mumbai
I came to know about HST during my residency while I was working on my thesis topic of STIs… it has helped me learn that there is much more to the medical profession than just the tag of being a Doctor. It has been a wonderful experience, I have grown with the organization, learning while working and trying to make a difference.

Srinivas Reddy
Friend, Hyderabad

I have visited the centre and have used its library which I find is unique in the resources it possesses. I have met a number of wonderful people there who have made me come to terms with several things in my life and I hope they continue their good work... I would like to see the organization grow out and reach more people in many ways that are possible. I wish Humsafar sets the highest standards in best practices in this sector that could lead the way for several others to follow.

Subha Raghavan
Founding Member, SAATHII, Chennai
I got involved with Humsafar trust few years ago through Tides India Fund which was raising funds in New York for supporting small GLBT organizations in India. Humsafar Trust served as a mother NGO in distributing these funds. Since then I got to know Ashok who amazes me with his leadership and dedication for GLBT issues. I would like to see Humsafar serving as a spring board for leadership development. We will need thousands of leaders to work towards issues of sexual minorities. I would like to see Humsafar providing opportunities for young people to lead various initiatives on their own.

Shoubojit
Scientist, NIH, Washington DC

Over the years, Humsafar has helped me understand and accept different aspects of gay life... which then i learned to appreciate. I have been fortunate enough to have seen some of the "drama" behind the scenes, and albeit a chaos in the making at times, to me it brings in an amazing sense of integrity as to what many hands can come together and achieve, especially in a country and community that is decades behind in cultural acceptance of LGBT existence compared to the western world.
What Humsafar needs to do is to breed in and train new generation "activists" who not only respect and understand the set goals of the trust but also add in a few of their own.



Uffe Gartner
UNDP, New Delhi
Humsafar has been the pioneer organization advocating for the rights of men who have sex with men in India. The organization has also taken the lead in developing community based programs to reduce the vulnerability of the MSM community to HIV/AIDS and support its members already living with the virus.
The organization has demonstrated that for successful support to people who have been pushed to the margin of society one has to build on the resources within these communities. By enhancing MSMs capacity and empowering them for effective responses the organization have made a great difference in the lives of people infected and affected by HIV/AIDS. The work of the organization today stands as an uncontested model/best practice.

Dr.Venkatesh Chakrapani
Researcher / Skin Specialist, Chennai

The Humsafar Trust has shown that commitment of a few individuals can change the lives of hundreds and thousands of others. In that way, I have learnt many things through Humsafar - through its activities, through its management and staff, etc. I'm learning to act locally while thinking globally - like the Humsafar
I see the Humsafar Trust as an organization with whom I would like to work with since Humsafar has a huge potential to make things happen and to change things.

 

Share your Memories

If you have been associated with Humsafar Trust in the past as a friend, supporter or professional, we would like to hear from you. Please share your thoughts on 3 points below and mail it to us alongwith permission to use it on our website.

1) A few words on Humsafar Trust and your relationship with the organization?
2) What role has Humsafar played in your life?

3) Anything specific that you would like to share?
Please include your name and title.


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Renald Rodriques
Friend, Mumbai

A few words on Humsafar Trust and your relationship with the organization?
YES!! I was closely associated with the Humsafar Centre when it was just founded!! It was like manna from heaven for us gay guys,in Mumbai. All thanks ofcourse would have to go to ARK, who was always in the centre of the storms that got attention to the HOMOSEXUAL community!! (Negative mostly, as he wanted everyone to be shocked into recognizing our tribe!!) I am sure he was also backed by a whole load of "invisible" supporters, who were not yet out!! His method. . . . WORKED!! and he managed to get society to grant the gay community its home zone!! India, NOT just Mumbai, would... WILL have to thank ARK!!

The Centre was a comfort zone for many. . .VERY many, guys who were keen to be with their "own", and the lack of a safe house, made this centre an instant hit!! I remember, that tho' I was "out" to most people (incl. my family!) in my life, I still wanted to be at the centre everyday. It was intoxicating!! The weekly meetings/ talks and debates, gave it the much needed thrust to get recognized as a place that was NOT there for picking-up, but for chilling and unwinding, with one's own!!

Controversies,surfaced and like bad weather took it's toll!! Fractions started forming,Politics found it's place here too. Though' it did NOT harm too much, it did make dents into the fabric that was family!!

What role has Humsafar played in your life?
In hindsight, the centre did NOT play any significant ROLE, in my life,(I am out remember!?) HOWEVER, it did have a significant PLACE in my life. It did not shape, mould, or influence my views, but for the period of time that I was associated with it, I had found a happy, safe niche to burrow into when I needed "my type" of space!!

In time to come, the centre "broadened it's agendas and perspectives, it spread it's wings to bring into it's fold, other minority communities/ groups / society's (and mine to a certain extent at that point in time!) social pressures, kept most closeted gays from visiting the centre, as it was NO longer a gay specific haven!! GAY men, NOT yet comfortable, with their own sexuality, were thrown off, by the mushrooming presence of "others", and lesser of their "own".

Anything specific that you would like to share?
Today, the centre is not synonymous, with the word 'GAY". It has now positioned itself as just another organization, doing it's so called bit for society!! The erstwhile presence it had, is lost! Other visible groups, for the gay man, have become front runners. i.e.. groups like GB etc. Here, the main emphasis is purely on homosexual men, and slowly with the presence and acceptance of women, the gay community, at large!!

The centre seems to have understood this change in it's presence/positioning in the gay arena, and corrective measures are being put in place! I have now started seeing, "Sunday Highs" being advertised and New year parties etc. being held. I wish that such events get more exposure, by word of mouth, and more GAY people are drawn into interacting at the centre so that the Humsafar Centre regains it's old glory!!

I hope my views have not offended anyone, as I have spoken from deep within!! I wish Humsafar the verrrrrry best, ALWAYS!!


Richard Winger
Supporter, USA


A few words on Humsafar Trust and your relationship with the organization?
I was introduced to Humsafar by Ashok probably seven years ago. It was my first trip to India after a long absence and it was striking to see gay activism and organization emerge in a place where, at least at that time and from an overseas perspective, one really wouldn't have expected it. I was very impressed with how much Humsafar was able to do with really very few resources and am happy that I was able to make some modest financial contributions during its early years.

What role has Humsafar played in your life?
It's given me an unforgettable insight into part of the essence of life in India and contributed to a personal bond with the country and it's people that I will never loose (though a return visit is long overdue).

Anything specific that you would like to share?
It's easy to be a gay activist at international conferences. Humsafar has chosen a more difficult mission: It engages in the daily struggle of making a specific difference in the life of gay individuals. And it's been in the forefront of organizing grassroots groups in India into a national movement. For that, I admire them greatly.


Saagar Gupta
Supporter, Mumbai

A few words on Humsafar Trust and your relationship with the organization?
Humsafar Trust definitely helped in bringing the gay community closer. But as the saying goes two vessels kept together always make noise. Our community was no exception! It soon had its differences and branched out into new groups and organizations. But from an optimistic viewpoint it surely helped in taking the Indian gay movement ahead, as now there are more avenues to follow and more voices to be heard. Some may call it cacophony and the hardcore pessimists will say that it is a drop of water in the ocean. But Humsafar Trust did play a significant role in helping the community to realize and make them comfortable with their identities and inclinations.

My relationship with Humsafar Trust, very true to its name has been like a bonding with trustworthy companions. Focus and priorities keep on shifting and changing in one's life but it can't certainly bleach our bond. As I believe we are there for each other, when ever the need will be. And if I have to sum up it in one word, I would say- "RELIABLE".

What role has Humsafar played in your life?
Getting involved with Humsafar Trust and its other auxiliary activities like Bombay Dost positively broadened my view about the community. In fact if today I have been able to talk this much about community issues, the credit goes to Humsafar Trust. Though I am still not out to my family or in the society, but being with Humsafar Trust has provided me a sense of association and belonging.

To me now, being a gay person is not just a license to do fun things or have a crazy life style as I thought earlier, but means a more mature and responsible status - a responsibility towards myself as an individual and towards my family - how despite my sexuality I can make them feel proud of me in our yet conservative society.

Anything specific that you would like to share?
With the visibility I feel that the space within the community is falling short. Very much like a growing family where either the members divide the house to make it smaller or step out and make new homes. I personally favor the latter option as it brings exposure, exposure of the members to the world outside and vice versa. So I feel the need of the hour is to step out and bring more visibility and acceptance for us as gay individuals and as a community.

In fact when my partner Sridhar and I made the film- 'Gulabi Aaina (The Pink Mirror)', it was the first step on this long journey. We have been together for last nine years and what would be more apt time to deliver this labour of our love. Yeah, it took us nine years instead of nine months but why should we follow the norms of a heterosexual society.


Dr.Sameer Kumta
Microbiologist, Mumbai


A few words on Humsafar Trust and your relationship with the organization?
I came to know about HST during my residency while I was working on my thesis topic of STIs. I came there a couple of times with a colleague of mine to do some scientific work and also at the same time provide medical services. The rest just happened. One thing led to another and we had a VCCTC sanctioned and thanks to the backing and faith of everyone at the Trust I guess we could accomplish a lot for STI and HIV based services at HST. It has been a wonderful experience, I have grown with the organization, learning while working and trying to make a difference.

What role has Humsafar played in your life?
Like I say it has helped me learn that there is much more to the medical profession than just the tag of being a Doctor. Being from a lab based background, my work at HST has helped me understand the trials and tribulations of people who come with so much hope and faith in the doctor at the VCCTC and how difficult it can sometimes be to stand tall in their eyes, knowing well that a heartening pat on the back or a few words of caring concern can work more wonders than all the medicines in the world.

Anything specific that you would like to share?
Well, there are so many memories, the first time we had a session telling everyone about what services we could provide, the VCT room which Ashok retrieved from what was initially a dump, the first time we got funds to buy a equipment, a microscope, the joy and laughter that had always greeted us when we come by, and also the sorrow of losing some brave friends along the way. Also the sheer thrill of hearing that HT finally got the first floor........ way to go man!

There have been many more touching moments difficult to describe at one stretch, but it will always remain a special place wherever I am.


Srinivas Reddy
Friend, Hyderabad

A few words on Humsafar Trust and your relationship with the organization?

I came to know of Humsafar through a friend of mine and have visited it regularly for a period of time in the years between 1998-2001.I have visited the centre and have used its library which I find is unique in the resources it possess. I have met a number of wonderful people there who have made me come to terms with several things in my life and I hope that this set of people continue with their good work.

What role has Humsafar played in your life?
I have come to terms with several things in life which were needing attention for a long time. I feel that the entire team there helps a lot of people change their perspective of life and though my association with the organization was limited, I still felt a lot of change in my attitudes about certain things that are important and current.Thanks a lot for the support given.

Anything specific that you would like to share?
I would like to see the organization grow out and reach more people in many ways that are possible with modern day technology know you all have started a email and a tele help line. I wish they were more widely known than currently. I also would like to know more about the happenings there so if you could come with a monthly plan/report that could inform people, possibly more help materially and physically could be garnered. I wish Humsafar sets the highest standards in best practices in this sector that could lead the way for several others to follow.


Subha Raghavan
Founding Member, SAATHII, Chennai


A few words on Humsafar Trust and your relationship with the organization?

I got involved with Humsafar trust few years ago through Tides India Fund which was raising funds in New York for supporting small GLBT organizations in India. Humsafar trust served as a mother NGO in distributing these funds. Since then I got to know Ashok who amazes me with his leadership and dedication for GLBT issues and keep us all humored all times with his wit. During these years I also had an opportunity to interact with Vivek, who I think is one of the silent heroes behind resounding success of Humsafar Trust.

What role has Humsafar played in your life?
Having Ashok in our lives is like having a supporting parent all times, either we are straight or gay. Ashok and Humsafar serve as our permanent parents and home, which we can reach out to anytime in the moments of happiness, trouble and sadness. They offer unconditional love which is critical for those of us who are committed to serving the health needs of sexual minorities.

Anything specific that you would like to share?
I would like to see Humsafar serving as a spring board for leadership development. We will need thousands of leaders to work towards issues of sexual minorities. I would like to see Humsafar providing opportunities for young people to lead various initiatives on their own.


Shoubojit
Scientist, NIH, Washington DC


A few words on Humsafar Trust and your relationship with the organization?
What role has Humsafar played in your life?
I am going to answer these two questions together... simply because to me what the organization is and what it had done for me is very interwoven and I cannot delineate the two.

My interaction with Humsafar has been like that of a person with his extended family. It happened all of a sudden overnight (literally) at the turn of the millennium (no kidding on that front too). I have known the people at Humsafar by their nicknames and identified them more for their antics rather than by their professional achievements. Although many of them were well established gay icons in the community... names like Ashok, Suhail, Vivek didn't quite stir up a whirlpool of emotions of having known some celebrity status quo! .... though later I learnt... it was no lesser than one. My interaction with the people of Humsafar was not just a chance acquaintance which I wanted to carry forward. For me it was a stepping stone into "gaydom", a turning point in my life! Don't confuse that with coming out, ...but for me the people at Humsafar gave me a chance to identify myself as a gay man WITH other gay men and interact with them and to help me ascertain my understanding about being gay. Because gay life isn't just what I am or what I do, its a complete mixing bowl. It includes a myriad of people from different walks of life who are as diverse yet culturally adept as are the many ethnic races of India, something that seldom catches your eye when you are under the shamiana of gay goodwill at the center, simply because you don't feel the different threads as they are so well interwoven. My interaction had been not from the work culture of Humsafar or for what it does for the gay community .... but from without, just as another gay man looks at the gathering from the other side of the street, but is so intrigued by it that he becomes very much a part of it. Over the years Humsafar has helped me understand and accept different aspects of gay life... which then I learned to appreciate. I have been fortunate enough to have seen some of the "drama" behind the scenes, and albeit a chaos in the making at times, to me it brings in an amazing sense of integrity as to what many hands can come together and achieve, especially in a country and community that is decades behind in cultural acceptance of LGBT existence compared to the western world. What the trust is trying to achieve is simply beyond comprehension of a short sighted person.... simply because although today its work may be widely criticized by skeptics and people who resist change, its repercussions are far reaching and will be embedded, forever, in the sands of time. Having known the organization for the last four years has given me a new outlook at what gay men can do as many other good citizens in our Indian society...... to strike a harmony amongst traditions old and new, to help make compassionate friends, to rekindle our cultural roots and beliefs and to educate for awareness .... in all, these salient features of Humsafar will be the making of a revolution which will touch every single life in modern society. Although I connect with Humsafar at a much personal level having some of my best friends at the center, as an outsider to the gamut of events that happens everyday at Humsafar I am happy to say that I am witness to history in the making. The many hours of selfless hard work that many of the staff put in ....to the bold outreach programs of Humsafar, Each role takes in a lot of co-ordination and energy, some thing that two men have been able to successfully achieve... the two pillars of the Humsafar family, Vivek and Ashok. Hats off to the duo for having achieved something that was beyond imagination just a decade ago!

Anything specific that you would like to share?
Well I have been a positive critique of Humsafar so far... but one also needs to see where the "revolution" goes! right now it is in the best of hands one can probably imagine for today! But.... we need to build a strong foundation that is more independent and resilient to administrative change. although inevitable such a change is bound to bring in chaos, but what Humsafar needs to do is to breed in and train new generation "activists" who not only respect and understand the set goals of the trust but also add in a few of their own. To be able to coordinate themselves with other willing organizations and be internationally visible would be, in my opinion, a real boon for the trust. Although the trust does propagate what many staff members believe in or enjoy, one must keep in mind that they have to build a platform to be open to accommodating ALL aspects of gay men, not just glamour and flamboyance (sadly that's the one which catches the public eye and becomes the set gold standard for a gay definitive). Humsafar has yet to provide a safe space for many a gay man who may not be comfortable with some aspects of gay flamboyance. I think in that I mean that the kind of events and drives that Humsafar organizes also needs to cater to that section of the society which for the large part will prefer to remain "unseen/closeted yet gay". They will be the ones who will still be very much a part of gay future, as much as is a "flamboyant flaming queen". I know this is a difficult issue to address but to be able to think and accommodate everyone so as to create a "safe space" for all gays at large and to bring about awareness in the LGBT community, to me that is a more complete goal of "gaydom". Because that will mark the beginning of the lifestyle many of would choose to live and in the meantime help in acceptance of LGBT at large.

Well although I have penned some of my views down, a lot of rethinking has to go into it... this is at a stretch an impromptu opinion of my view of the trust and where it should be headed to. Hope my 2 cents helps contribute.


Uffe Gartner
UNDP, New Delhi


A few words on Humsafar Trust and your relationship with the organization?
I have known Humsafar since the early 90'ies and been following its development and successes from the outside through out the years.
Humsafar has been the pioneer organization advocating for the rights of men who have sex with men in India. The organization has also taken the lead in developing community based programs to reduce the vulnerability of the MSM community to HIV/AIDS and support its members already living with the virus.
Both professionally and personally my relationship with Humsafar has always been very warm and direct. Humsafar has always been ready to support initiatives taken by UNDP in the area of HIV/AIDS and I have personally learned a great deal about vulnerability, stigma and discrimination faced by MSM including those living with HIV from working with the organisiation.

What role has Humsafar played in your life?
Humsafar as a community based organization has been an important source for inspiration and realization of the importance of participatory bottom up approaches. The organization has demonstrated that for successful support to people who have been pushed to the margin of society one has to build on the resources within these communities. By enhancing MSM's capacity and empowering them for effective responses the organization have made a great difference in the lives of people infected and affected by HIV/AIDS. The work of the organization today stands as an uncontested model/best practice.

Anything specific that you would like to share?
The feeling of family and community spirit in the Humsafar Centre is never failing. Anyone will as soon as they work in feel at home. That kind of warmth is unique and at hart of the success of Humsafar. Keep growing stronger!!!


Dr.Venkatesh Chakrapani
Researcher / Skin Specialist, Chennai

A few words on Humsafar Trust and your relationship with the organization?

I came to know about the Humsafar Trust when I read some articles in relation to my MSM research during my MD. I was introduced to Mr. Ashok Row Kavi by Dr. Subha Raghavan through e-mail and I met with Ashok and Humsafar staff when I came to attend the 2000 conference organized by the Humsafar Trust.

Now I see the Humsafar Trust as an organization with whom I would like to work with since Humsafar has a huge potential to make things happen and to change things. I'm glad to learn from the Humsafar and would be very glad if I can be of any small assistance.

What role has Humsafar played in your life?

The Humsafar Trust has shown that committment of a few individuals can change the lives of hundreds and thousands of others. In that way, I must have learnt many things through Humsafar - through its activities, through its management and staff, etc. I'm learning to act locally while thinking globally - like the Humsafar.

I came to know much more about the various identities and labels during my stay at Humsafar for more than a month in May 2001. I was also motivated by the Humsafar Trust (indirectly) to open a clinic exclusively for MSM in a community organization (SWAM) once I went back to Chennai.

Anything specific that you would like to share?
Humsafar has enormous potential in bringing together various groups in spite of the differences among those groups. With strategic leadership, efficient management and field staff, Humsafar Trust is making a history.


 
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