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Friends
Speak
Friends,
Supporters and Professionals share their memories, thoughts
and views about Humsafar Trust from their perspecvtive.
Dr. Anuradha Menon
Psychiatrist
A
few words on Humsafar Trust and your relationship with the
organization?
I see Humsafar as an extremely proactive and effective organization
that focuses on special issues in the community. It also
does some excellent outreach work on aids related issues
in special populations, especially MSM.
What
role has Humsafar played in your life?
I had the opportunity to work as mental health professional
in this organization, targeting the needs of the workers
and burnout issues. I also worked with referred clients
and drop-in clients who were felt to require counseling
or any help with identity issues. I was a part of the project
that dealt with HIV/AIDS issues in the MSM population of
Mumbai.
Anything
specific that you would like to share?
I feel that Humsafar trust is doing an excellent job as
it is. The dedication and ability for hard work I was able
to observe when I interacted with the workers was admirable.
I do feel also that if burnout issues are continuously addressed
we could get a lot more out of the workers, many of whom
have an instinctive knack for community work. An open forum
where the workers could focus on the daily stress they go
through will help to diffuse any tensions. A structured
format for this would be the best, with support from mental
health professionals.
Bindumadhav
Khire
Samapathik
Trust, Pune
A
few words on Humsafar Trust and your relationship with the
organization?
HST has done pioneering work in Gay and MSM sector. I had
heard a lot of negative stuff about HST from a lot of people
but after getting in touch with them and seeing things in
close quarters I see that HST has managed to do a huge amount
of work in very very difficult circumstances. HST has been
a great support for my organization And I have learned a lot
from it.
What
role has Humsafar played in your life?
I came in touch with HST sometime in may/June 2000. I was
working in Andheri then. I met Ashok and he suggested that
I start a group in Pune - Samapathik
Trust. Since then my relationship with HST has been growing.
My trust received training, exposure to methods of targeted
intervention and funding from HST. 2 of our trustees are also
closely associated with HST and Bombay Dost.
Anything specific that you would like
to share?
I believe that HST needs to be less involved in the political
field (Ashok is aware of the way I see things and he doesn't
agree, which is fine.) I am aware
that many times his attitude is justified, but HST's detractors
use excuses to provoke him (because they have nothing better
to do). We need to (ALL of us) learn the art of ignoring the
pisspots (a lot of them from our own community).
I feel HST may benefit by dividing itself into core groups
for working in different areas like Medical issues, Legal
issues, Social Change (Sensitization) etc., so that it could
be better coordinated.
Dr. Hema Jerajani
HOD Skin & Dermatology, LTMG hospital,
Mumbai
A
few words on Humsafar Trust and your relationship with the
organization?
I
have a long-standing association with Humsafar and it is going
stronger day by day. The male residents of the Department
have a commitment to visit Humsafar atleast thrice a week.
This is done on a rotational basis so that all the residents
are sensitized to deal with MSM group effectively. The medical
problems of this group are also unique and therefore this
kind of training is very essential. The services they provide
at Humsafar are beneficial to the MSM group and I have witness
the change in the scenario of health accessing behaviour of
the group. I am thankful to Mr. Ashok Row Kavi and Mr. Vivek
Raj Anand for their leadership in spearheading various welfare
programs for the MSM group.
What role has Humsafar played in your
life?
Humsafar has taught me to deal with sexuality issues boldly.
I can now convince anybody to look at the issues of MSM dispassionately
and listen to the group's collective voices. I have become
the staunch supporter of the group and would help the group
in any capacity I can.
Anything
specific that you would like to share?
I see that the group members are very talented and artistic.
The world needs to be shown these hidden talents each one
has. I also urge the group members to pursue their dreams.
I also feel that the Humsafar group is now poised to carry
out clinical and psychosexual research. We need to add epidemiologists
in the group.
Javid
Syed
Activist, New York
A
few words on Humsafar Trust and your relationship with the
organization?
When I left Bombay, I only knew of a few networks of queer
folks and on my first visit back in 1990 I read an article
in Mid-Day about Humsafar and Bombay Dost. I immediately called
and have made some fast friends who, despite our differences,
I have appreciated for the important and ground breaking work
they do in making health services available for the queer
men and transgender women communities, especially those who
often face the greatest amount of obstacles.
As someone based outside of India, it was a very important
for me to connect with fellow activists in my home town- Bombay,
including ones at Humsafar, to recognize the ways in which
our work can inform each other. This is especially true as
I was working in the South Asian immigrant communities doing
HIV and sexuality-based work in the US.
What
role has Humsafar played in your life?
Its a place that I visit when ever I come home, its part of
what it means to be home for me. Its also a constant reminder
that part of a vibrant political movement requires a diversity
of voices, each of whom can hopefully play a role in pushing
for social justice, and each can challenge the other to work
for a broader vision for liberation of not only queer people,
but for all people that are impacted by a communalist government
in an increasingly globalized environment in India.
Anything specific that you would like
to share?
Whenever I have come to Humsafar I have been amazed by the
hard work of all the staff and volunteers and the warmth with
which they have created a community through the strategy of
health services.
Also I have always experiences this as one of the few spaces
in Bombay where hijras and gay men across incredible diversity
speak about their lives as part of the same community.
Manavendra
Gohil
Chair, Lakshya Trust, Gujarat
I
have known Humsafar Trust right since its inception and have
known Ashok Row Kavi even before Humsafar was born. For me
Humsafar is like my guardian, my guide. It has given me the
opportunity to be comfortable with my sexuality. Through Humsafar
(Bombay Dost) I came in contact with gays in Gujarat and was
able to start Lakshya,
Gujarat's first CBO for MSMs, so in that respect Humsafar
is my mother concern. The inspiration drawn from Humsafar
has given me the courage to fight for gay related issues.
I know that I can always depend on Humsafar in times of distress
and expect help to come out of my problems. For this I shall
be forever indebted to Humsafar and can promise to offer any
kind of help in my capacity.
Dr.Mannu
Singh
STI specialist, Mumbai
A
few words on Humsafar Trust and your relationship with the
organization?
I was associated with the Trust in the capacity of a clinician.
I was working as a clinician with the Trust for 3 years. It
was a very nice and and pleasant association. When we started
working in the clinic, there were a lot of things that needed
to be added to the site but over the past years it has become
a full fledged clinic and very patient friendly.
What role has Humsafar played in your life?
It has been a very pleasant association and have learnt a
lot, interaction with people and how to work in a team. Also
I have realized that with good team effort and dedication
things are possible as we have seen the Trust and it components
grow over a period of time.
Anything specific that you would like
to share?
I would like to wish the best for r the trust and hope they
continue their good work as they are doing now.
Niranjan
Kamatkar
Wise
Thoughts, London
A
few words on Humsafar Trust and your relationship with the
organization?
I was associated with Humsafar Trust at its inception and
was a part of the management committee of first gay conference
it organized in Bombay. We have also received the support
from the trust in Shiver project- dealing with South Asian
women & HIV - and we saw it as a partner agency and announced
it on our publicity material. (we means : Wise
Thoughts, a London based arts charity dealing with issues
of minority ethnic and sexual minority communities)
What role has Humsafar played in your
life?
I always enjoyed Humsafar meetings on Friday in its first
two year development period. In my subsequent visits to the
Trust office, I was also very impressed with the services
it offered, clients base reach and the progress it made in
subsequent years - with the help of its eminent trustees and
equally committed and very helpful staff members.
Anything specific that you would like
to share?
I felt the new focus of trust's work (among grassroots community
members) will give it a broader mainstream platform and opportunities
to strengthen its excellent work. I was bit disappointed with
the responses of some of the middle class service users (read
English speaking) when they wanted a narrower role and did
not wish to associate with the grassroots communities. I have
met some of the present clients and stakeholders of the Trust
and was very impressed with their warm, welcoming and helpful
attitude.
I would be interested in making one observation: as members
of minority, we need to work together with different groups
and form partnership links with various other organizations.
The idea that we can be the sole champion of minority has
been a thing of the past. The divisions among service provisions
groups have resulted in a lack of access to properly deserved
resources (read global funding in HIV sector) to the community
in the past. I am proud that Humsafar Trust recognized these
pitfalls right from the beginning and acted accordingly.
Pawan
Dhall
SAATHII,
Kolkata
A few words on Humsafar Trust and your
relationship with the organization?
Humsafar Trust and the people in it have been a mentor
to me and the LGBT support agencies (Counsel Club, Integration)
I have been involved with. Its sheer existence through the
last 10 years and more has made ideas and initiatives seem
possible.
What
role has Humsafar played in your life?
When
Integration received its first funding from abroad, Humsafar
Trust played a key role in helping us access the funds by
employing me as its Calcutta
outreach staff. So it has not only given me ideas, training
and directions, but also bread and butter at a crucial time
in my career and our agency's existence.
Anything
specific that you would like to share?
It was a conference organized by Humsafar Trust (and the then
Naz Project, London) in 1994 that was my first gay conference.
And there has been none like that one! Not even the subsequent
conferences organized by Humsafar Trust have had the same
appeal that the first conference had. Not just because it
was my first conference, but because it was a first for so
many of us attending it and for those organizing it! The timing
could not have been better
and today we look at the conference as a landmark event in
the history of our LGBT movement.
Humsafar
Trust in now again taking the lead in initiating the INFOSEM
Network. Almost exactly 10 years from the 1994 conference.
I hope to live another 10 years to look back at this milestone,
which I'm sure it will be.
Rakesh
Modi
Supporter,
San Francisco
A
few words on Humsafar Trust and your relationship with the
organization?
I am proud to be one of the first persons to be involved with
the formation of Humsafar Trust. I personally drafted the
Memorandum of Association and other legal documents and filled
out the applications to get the trust registered. After the
trust was formed, I volunteered with the organization on its
various projects until 1997, when I moved to USA. Thereafter,
my involvement has been more in spirit, and on an advisory
basis, than on a day-to-day working of the organization.
What role has Humsafar played in your
life?
Humsafar has been extremely important in my life, since I
got an opportunity to work and counsel LBGT folks from the
community and sometimes even their families to help them be
comfortable with their sexuality, and create a vibrant, focused,
health conscious LGBT community in Bombay. Through this work,
I not only got satisfaction, but also was able to find a 'family'
outside of my immediate blood family.
Anything specific that you would like
to share?
I am very glad that Humsafar is growing leaps and bounds
and doing fabulous work with the LGBT community not only in
Bombay, but in other parts of the country as well. The outreach
work done by its numerous volunteers and staff is commendable
and has by far exceeded my highest expectations. I feel very
proud to be associated with such a non-profit organization
and I hope to continue and strengthen this relationship in
any way possible. And I also wish good luck to the trustees,
advisors, volunteers, staff, administrator and the members
and to the community that benefits from this wonderful organization.
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What
they say about HST
Dr.
Anuradha Menon
Psychiatrist
I
had the opportunity to work as mental health professional
in HST and I see Humsafar as an extremely proactive
and effective organization that focuses on special
issues in the community.
I feel that Humsafar trust is doing an excellent job
as it is
I observed the dedication and ability
for hard work when I interacted with the workers and
it was admirable
I also feel that if burnout
issues are continuously addressed we could get a lot
more out of the workers, many of whom have an instinctive
knack for community work. An open forum where the
workers could focus on the daily stress they go through
will help to diffuse any tensions. A structured format
for this would be the best, with support from mental
health professionals.
Bindumadhav
Khire
Samapathik
Trust, Pune
I
came in touch with HST sometime in may/June 2000
I met Ashok and he suggested that I start a group
in Pune
I had heard a lot of negative stuff
about HST from a lot of people but after getting in
touch with them and seeing things at close quarters,
I see that HST has managed to do a huge amount of
work in very difficult circumstances.
I
believe that HST needs to be less involved in the
political field and that HST may benefit by dividing
itself into core groups for working in different areas
like Medical issues, Legal issues, Social Change (Sensitization)
etc, so that it could be better coordinated.
Dr.
Hema Jerajani
HOD
Skin & Dermatology, LTMG hospital,
Mumbai
I
have a longstanding association with Humsafar and
it is going stronger day by day
The services
they provide at Humsafar are beneficial to the MSM
group and I have witness the change in the scenario
of health accessing behavior of the group. I am thankful
to Mr. Ashok Row Kavi and Mr. Vivek Raj Anand for
their leadership in spearheading various welfare programmes
for the MSM group. Humsafar has taught me to deal
with sexuality issues boldly
I also feel that
the Humsafar group is now poised to carry out clinical
and psychosexual research.
Javid
Syed
Activist,
New York
It's (Humsafar) a place that I visit when ever I come
home. It is also a constant reminder that part of
a vibrant political movement requires a diversity
of voices, each of whom can hopefully play a role
in pushing for social justice, and each can challenge
the other to work for a broader vision for liberation
of not only queer people, but for all people that
are impacted by a communalist government in an increasingly
globalized environment in India.
I
have always experienced HST as one of the few spaces
in Bombay where hijras and gay men across incredible
diversity speak about their lives as part of the same
community.
Manavendra
Gohil
Chairman,
Lakshya Trust, Gujarat
For
me Humsafar is like my guardian, my guide. It has
given me the opportunity to be comfortable with my
sexuality. Through Humsafar (Bombay Dost), I came
in contact with gays in Gujarat and was able to start
Lakshya, Gujarat's first CBO for MSMs, so in that
respect Humsafar is my mother concern. The inspiration
drawn from Humsafar has given me the courage to fight
for gay related issues.
Dr.Mannu
Singh
Skin
specialist, Mumbai
I was associated with the Trust in the capacity of
a clinician. I was working as a clinician with the
Trust for 3 years. It was a very nice and a pleasant
association. When we started working in the clinic,
there were a lot of things that needed to be added
to the site but over the past years it has become
a full fledged clinic and very patient friendly.
Niranjan
Kamatkar
Wise
Thoughts, London
I feel the new focus of trust's work (among grassroots
community members) will give it a broader mainstream
platform and opportunities to strengthen its excellent
work. I am a bit disappointed with the responses of
some of the middle class service users (read English
speaking), when they wanted a narrower role and did
not wish to associate with the grassroots communities.
I have met some of the present clients and stakeholders
of the Trust and was very impressed with their warm,
welcoming and helpful attitude.
Pawan
Dhall
SAATHII,
Kolkata
Humsafar Trust and the people in it have mentored
me and the LGBT support agencies (Counsel Club, Integration)
When
Integration received its first funding from abroad,
Humsafar Trust played a key role in helping us access
the funds by employing me as its Calcutta outreach
staff. So it has not only given me ideas, training
and directions, but also bread and butter at a crucial
time in my career and our agency's existence.
Rakesh
Modi
Supporter,
San Francisco
I am proud to be one of the first persons to be involved
with the formation and working of Humsafar Trust.
Through this work, I not only got satisfaction, but
also was able to find a 'family' outside of my immediate
blood family. I am very glad that Humsafar is growing
leaps and bounds and doing fabulous work with the
LGBT community not only in Bombay, but in other parts
of the country as well.
Renald
Rodriques
Friend,
Mumbai
Humsafar
Centre when it was just founded
was like manna
from heaven. The Centre was a comfort zone for many
many guys who were keen to be with their "own",
and the lack of a safe house, made this centre an
instant hit!! I remember, that though ' I was "out"
to most people (including my family!) in my life;
I still wanted to be at the centre everyday. It was
intoxicating!!
Richard
Winger
Supporter,
USA
I was introduced to Humsafar by Ashok...it was my
first trip to India
and it was striking to see
gay activism and organization emerge in a place where,
at least at that time and from an overseas perspective,
one really wouldn't have expected it. It's given me
an unforgettable insight into part of the essence
of life in India and contributed to a personal bond
with the country and its people that I will never
loose. It's easy to be a gay activist at international
conferences. Humsafar has chosen a more difficult
mission: It engages in the daily struggle of making
a specific difference in the life of gay individuals.
And it's been in the forefront of organizing grassroots
groups in India into a national movement. For that,
I admire them greatly.
Saagar
Gupta
Supporter, Mumbai
Humsafar
Trust definitely helped in bringing the gay community
closer. But as the saying goes two vessels kept together
always make noise. Our community was no exception!
It soon had its differences and branched out into
new groups and organizations. But from an optimistic
viewpoint it surely helped in taking the Indian gay
movement ahead, as now there are more avenues to follow
and more voices to be heard. Some may call it cacophony
and the hardcore pessimists will say that it is a
drop of water in the ocean. But Humsafar Trust did
play a significant role in helping the community to
realize and make them comfortable with their identities
and inclinations.
Dr.Sameer Kumta
Microbiologist, Mumbai
I came to know about HST during my residency while
I was working on my thesis topic of STIs
it
has helped me learn that there is much more to the
medical profession than just the tag of being a Doctor.
It has been a wonderful experience, I have grown with
the organization, learning while working and trying
to make a difference.
Srinivas
Reddy
Friend, Hyderabad
I have visited the centre and have used its library
which I find is unique in the resources it possesses.
I have met a number of wonderful people there who
have made me come to terms with several things in
my life and I hope they continue their good work...
I would like to see the organization grow out and
reach more people in many ways that are possible.
I wish Humsafar sets the highest standards in best
practices in this sector that could lead the way for
several others to follow.
Subha
Raghavan
Founding Member, SAATHII, Chennai
I got involved with Humsafar
trust few years ago through Tides India Fund which
was raising funds in New York for supporting small
GLBT organizations in India. Humsafar Trust served
as a mother NGO in distributing these funds. Since
then I got to know Ashok who amazes me with his leadership
and dedication for GLBT issues. I would like to see
Humsafar serving as a spring board for leadership
development. We will need thousands of leaders to
work towards issues of sexual minorities. I would
like to see Humsafar providing opportunities for young
people to lead various initiatives on their own.
Shoubojit
Scientist, NIH, Washington
DC
Over the years, Humsafar has helped me understand
and accept different aspects of gay life... which
then i learned to appreciate. I have been fortunate
enough to have seen some of the "drama"
behind the scenes, and albeit a chaos in the making
at times, to me it brings in an amazing sense of integrity
as to what many hands can come together and achieve,
especially in a country and community that is decades
behind in cultural acceptance of LGBT existence compared
to the western world.
What Humsafar needs to do is to breed in and train
new generation "activists" who not only
respect and understand the set goals of the trust
but also add in a few of their own.
Uffe
Gartner
UNDP, New Delhi
Humsafar has been the pioneer organization advocating
for the rights of men who have sex with men in India.
The organization has also taken the lead in developing
community based programs to reduce the vulnerability
of the MSM community to HIV/AIDS and support its members
already living with the virus. The
organization has demonstrated that for successful
support to people who have been pushed to the margin
of society one has to build on the resources within
these communities. By enhancing MSMs capacity and
empowering them for effective responses the organization
have made a great difference in the lives of people
infected and affected by HIV/AIDS. The work of the
organization today stands as an uncontested model/best
practice.
Dr.Venkatesh
Chakrapani
Researcher / Skin Specialist, Chennai
The
Humsafar Trust has shown that commitment of a few
individuals can change the lives of hundreds and thousands
of others. In that way, I have learnt many things
through Humsafar - through its activities, through
its management and staff, etc. I'm learning to act
locally while thinking globally - like the Humsafar
I see the Humsafar Trust as an organization with whom
I would like to work with since Humsafar has a huge
potential to make things happen and to change things.
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your Memories
If you have been associated
with Humsafar Trust in the past as a friend, supporter
or professional, we would like to hear from you. Please
share your thoughts on 3 points below and mail it to
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1)
A few words on Humsafar Trust and your relationship
with the organization?
2)
What role has Humsafar played in your life?
3)
Anything
specific that you would like to share?
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title.
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Renald
Rodriques
Friend, Mumbai
A
few words on Humsafar Trust and your relationship with the
organization?
YES!!
I was closely associated with the Humsafar Centre when it
was just founded!! It was like manna from heaven for us gay
guys,in Mumbai. All thanks ofcourse would have to go to ARK,
who was always in the centre of the storms that got attention
to the HOMOSEXUAL community!! (Negative mostly, as he wanted
everyone to be shocked into recognizing our tribe!!) I am
sure he was also backed by a whole load of "invisible"
supporters, who were not yet out!! His method. . . . WORKED!!
and he managed to get society to grant the gay community its
home zone!! India, NOT just Mumbai, would... WILL have to
thank ARK!!
The Centre was a comfort zone for many. . .VERY many, guys
who were keen to be with their "own", and the lack
of a safe house, made this centre an instant hit!! I remember,
that tho' I was "out" to most people (incl. my family!)
in my life, I still wanted to be at the centre everyday. It
was intoxicating!! The weekly meetings/ talks and debates,
gave it the much needed thrust to get recognized as a place
that was NOT there for picking-up, but for chilling and unwinding,
with one's own!!
Controversies,surfaced and like bad weather took it's toll!!
Fractions started forming,Politics found it's place here too.
Though' it did NOT harm too much, it did make dents into the
fabric that was family!!
What role has Humsafar played in your
life?
In hindsight, the centre did NOT play any significant ROLE,
in my life,(I am out remember!?) HOWEVER, it did have a significant
PLACE in my life. It did not shape, mould, or influence my
views, but for the period of time that I was associated with
it, I had found a happy, safe niche to burrow into when I
needed "my type" of space!!
In time to come, the centre "broadened it's agendas and
perspectives, it spread it's wings to bring into it's fold,
other minority communities/ groups / society's (and mine to
a certain extent at that point in time!) social pressures,
kept most closeted gays from visiting the centre, as it was
NO longer a gay specific haven!! GAY men, NOT yet comfortable,
with their own sexuality, were thrown off, by the mushrooming
presence of "others", and lesser of their "own".
Anything specific that you would like
to share?
Today, the centre is not synonymous, with the word 'GAY".
It has now positioned itself as just another organization,
doing it's so called bit for society!! The erstwhile presence
it had, is lost! Other visible groups, for the gay man, have
become front runners. i.e.. groups like GB etc. Here, the
main emphasis is purely on homosexual men, and slowly with
the presence and acceptance of women, the gay community, at
large!!
The centre seems to have understood this change in it's presence/positioning
in the gay arena, and corrective measures are being put in
place! I have now started seeing, "Sunday Highs"
being advertised and New year parties etc. being held. I wish
that such events get more exposure, by word of mouth, and
more GAY people are drawn into interacting at the centre so
that the Humsafar Centre regains it's old glory!!
I hope my views have not offended anyone, as I have spoken
from deep within!! I wish Humsafar the verrrrrry best, ALWAYS!!
Richard
Winger
Supporter, USA
A
few words on Humsafar Trust and your relationship with the
organization?
I was introduced to Humsafar by Ashok probably seven years
ago. It was my first trip to India after a long absence and
it was striking to see gay activism and organization emerge
in a place where, at least at that time and from an overseas
perspective, one really wouldn't have expected it. I was very
impressed with how much Humsafar was able to do with really
very few resources and am happy that I was able to make some
modest financial contributions during its early years.
What role has Humsafar played in your
life?
It's given me an unforgettable insight into part of the essence
of life in India and contributed to a personal bond with the
country and it's people that I will never loose (though a
return visit is long overdue).
Anything specific that you would like
to share?
It's easy to be a gay activist at international conferences.
Humsafar has chosen a more difficult mission: It engages in
the daily struggle of making a specific difference in the
life of gay individuals. And it's been in the forefront of
organizing grassroots groups in India into a national movement.
For that, I admire them greatly.
Saagar
Gupta
Supporter,
Mumbai
A
few words on Humsafar Trust and your relationship with the
organization?
Humsafar Trust definitely helped in bringing the gay community
closer. But as the saying goes two vessels kept together always
make noise. Our community was no exception! It soon had its
differences and branched out into new groups and organizations.
But from an optimistic viewpoint it surely helped in taking
the Indian gay movement ahead, as now there are more avenues
to follow and more voices to be heard. Some may call it cacophony
and the hardcore pessimists will say that it is a drop of
water in the ocean. But Humsafar Trust did play a significant
role in helping the community to realize and make them comfortable
with their identities and inclinations.
My relationship with Humsafar Trust, very true to its name
has been like a bonding with trustworthy companions. Focus
and priorities keep on shifting and changing in one's life
but it can't certainly bleach our bond. As I believe we are
there for each other, when ever the need will be. And if I
have to sum up it in one word, I would say- "RELIABLE".
What role has Humsafar played in your
life?
Getting involved with Humsafar Trust and its other auxiliary
activities like Bombay Dost positively broadened my view about
the community. In fact if today I have been able to talk this
much about community issues, the credit goes to Humsafar Trust.
Though I am still not out to my family or in the society,
but being with Humsafar Trust has provided me a sense of association
and belonging.
To me now, being a gay person is not just a license to do
fun things or have a crazy life style as I thought earlier,
but means a more mature and responsible status - a responsibility
towards myself as an individual and towards my family - how
despite my sexuality I can make them feel proud of me in our
yet conservative society.
Anything
specific that you would like to share?
With the visibility I feel that the space within the community
is falling short. Very much like a growing family where either
the members divide the house to make it smaller or step out
and make new homes. I personally favor the latter option as
it brings exposure, exposure of the members to the world outside
and vice versa. So I feel the need of the hour is to step
out and bring more visibility and acceptance for us as gay
individuals and as a community.
In fact when my partner Sridhar and I made the film- 'Gulabi
Aaina (The Pink Mirror)', it was the first step on this long
journey. We have been together for last nine years and what
would be more apt time to deliver this labour of our love.
Yeah, it took us nine years instead of nine months but why
should we follow the norms of a heterosexual society.
Dr.Sameer
Kumta
Microbiologist, Mumbai
A
few words on Humsafar Trust and your relationship with the
organization?
I came to know about HST during my residency while I was working
on my thesis topic of STIs. I came there a couple of times
with a colleague of mine to do some scientific work and also
at the same time provide medical services. The rest just happened.
One thing led to another and we had a VCCTC
sanctioned and thanks to the backing and faith of everyone
at the Trust I guess we could accomplish a lot for STI and
HIV based services at HST. It has been a wonderful experience,
I have grown with the organization, learning while working
and trying to make a difference.
What role has Humsafar played in your
life?
Like I say it has helped me learn that there is much more
to the medical profession than just the tag of being a Doctor.
Being from a lab based background, my work at HST has helped
me understand the trials and tribulations of people who come
with so much hope and faith in the doctor at the VCCTC
and how difficult it can sometimes be to stand tall in their
eyes, knowing well that a heartening pat on the back or a
few words of caring concern can work more wonders than all
the medicines in the world.
Anything specific that you would like
to share?
Well, there are so many memories, the first time we had a
session telling everyone about what services we could provide,
the VCT room which Ashok retrieved from what was initially
a dump, the first time we got funds to buy a equipment, a
microscope, the joy and laughter that had always greeted us
when we come by, and also the sorrow of losing some brave
friends along the way. Also the sheer thrill of hearing that
HT finally got the first floor........ way to go man!
There have been many more touching moments difficult to describe
at one stretch, but it will always remain a special place
wherever I am.
Srinivas Reddy
Friend, Hyderabad
A few words on Humsafar Trust and your relationship with the
organization?
I came to know of Humsafar through a friend of mine and have
visited it regularly for a period of time in the years between
1998-2001.I have visited the centre and have used its library
which I find is unique in the resources it possess. I have
met a number of wonderful people there who have made me come
to terms with several things in my life and I hope that this
set of people continue with their good work.
What role has Humsafar played in your
life?
I have come to terms with several things in life which were
needing attention for a long time. I feel that the entire
team there helps a lot of people change their perspective
of life and though my association with the organization was
limited, I still felt a lot of change in my attitudes about
certain things that are important and current.Thanks a lot
for the support given.
Anything
specific that you would like to share?
I would like to see the organization grow out and reach more
people in many ways that are possible with modern day technology
know you all have started a email and a tele help line. I
wish they were more widely known than currently. I also would
like to know more about the happenings there so if you could
come with a monthly plan/report that could inform people,
possibly more help materially and physically could be garnered.
I wish Humsafar sets the highest standards in best practices
in this sector that could lead the way for several others
to follow.
Subha
Raghavan
Founding Member, SAATHII, Chennai
A few words on Humsafar Trust and your relationship with the
organization?
I got involved with Humsafar trust few years ago through Tides
India Fund which was raising funds in New York for supporting
small GLBT organizations in India. Humsafar trust served as
a mother NGO in distributing these funds. Since then I got
to know Ashok who amazes me with his leadership and dedication
for GLBT issues and keep us all humored all times with his
wit. During these years I also had an opportunity to interact
with Vivek, who I think is one of the silent heroes behind
resounding success of Humsafar Trust.
What role has Humsafar played in your
life?
Having Ashok in our lives is like having a supporting parent
all times, either we are straight or gay. Ashok and Humsafar
serve as our permanent parents and home, which we can reach
out to anytime in the moments of happiness, trouble and sadness.
They offer unconditional love which is critical for those
of us who are committed to serving the health needs of sexual
minorities.
Anything specific that you would like
to share?
I would like to see Humsafar serving as a spring board for
leadership development. We will need thousands of leaders
to work towards issues of sexual minorities. I would like
to see Humsafar providing opportunities for young people to
lead various initiatives on their own.
Shoubojit
Scientist,
NIH, Washington DC
A
few words on Humsafar Trust and your relationship with the
organization?
What
role has Humsafar played in your life?
I
am
going to answer these two questions together... simply because
to me what the organization is and what it had done for me
is very interwoven and I cannot delineate the two.
My interaction with Humsafar has been like that of a person
with his extended family. It happened all of a sudden overnight
(literally) at the turn of the millennium (no kidding on that
front too). I have known the people at Humsafar by their nicknames
and identified them more for their antics rather than by their
professional achievements. Although many of them were well
established gay icons in the community... names like Ashok,
Suhail, Vivek didn't quite stir up a whirlpool of emotions
of having known some celebrity status quo! .... though later
I learnt... it was no lesser than one. My interaction with
the people of Humsafar was not just a chance acquaintance
which I wanted to carry forward. For me it was a stepping
stone into "gaydom", a turning point in my life!
Don't confuse that with coming out, ...but for me the people
at Humsafar gave me a chance to identify myself as a gay man
WITH other gay men and interact with them and to help me ascertain
my understanding about being gay. Because gay life isn't just
what I am or what I do, its a complete mixing bowl. It includes
a myriad of people from different walks of life who are as
diverse yet culturally adept as are the many ethnic races
of India, something that seldom catches your eye when you
are under the shamiana of gay goodwill at the center, simply
because you don't feel the different threads as they are so
well interwoven. My interaction had been not from the work
culture of Humsafar or for what it does for the gay community
.... but from without, just as another gay man looks at the
gathering from the other side of the street, but is so intrigued
by it that he becomes very much a part of it. Over the years
Humsafar has helped me understand and accept different aspects
of gay life... which then I learned to appreciate. I have
been fortunate enough to have seen some of the "drama"
behind the scenes, and albeit a chaos in the making at times,
to me it brings in an amazing sense of integrity as to what
many hands can come together and achieve, especially in a
country and community that is decades behind in cultural acceptance
of LGBT existence compared to the western world. What the
trust is trying to achieve is simply beyond comprehension
of a short sighted person.... simply because although today
its work may be widely criticized by skeptics and people who
resist change, its repercussions are far reaching and will
be embedded, forever, in the sands of time. Having known the
organization for the last four years has given me a new outlook
at what gay men can do as many other good citizens in our
Indian society...... to strike a harmony amongst traditions
old and new, to help make compassionate friends, to rekindle
our cultural roots and beliefs and to educate for awareness
.... in all, these salient features of Humsafar will be the
making of a revolution which will touch every single life
in modern society. Although I connect with Humsafar at a much
personal level having some of my best friends at the center,
as an outsider to the gamut of events that happens everyday
at Humsafar I am happy to say that I am witness to history
in the making. The many hours of selfless hard work that many
of the staff put in ....to the bold outreach programs of Humsafar,
Each role takes in a lot of co-ordination and energy, some
thing that two men have been able to successfully achieve...
the two pillars of the Humsafar family, Vivek and Ashok. Hats
off to the duo for having achieved something that was beyond
imagination just a decade ago!
Anything
specific that you would like to share?
Well I have been a positive critique of Humsafar so far...
but one also needs to see where the "revolution"
goes! right now it is in the best of hands one can probably
imagine for today! But.... we need to build a strong foundation
that is more independent and resilient to administrative change.
although inevitable such a change is bound to bring in chaos,
but what Humsafar needs to do is to breed in and train new
generation "activists" who not only respect and
understand the set goals of the trust but also add in a few
of their own. To be able to coordinate themselves with other
willing organizations and be internationally visible would
be, in my opinion, a real boon for the trust. Although the
trust does propagate what many staff members believe in or
enjoy, one must keep in mind that they have to build a platform
to be open to accommodating ALL aspects of gay men, not just
glamour and flamboyance (sadly that's the one which catches
the public eye and becomes the set gold standard for a gay
definitive). Humsafar has yet to provide a safe space for
many a gay man who may not be comfortable with some aspects
of gay flamboyance. I think in that I mean that the kind of
events and drives that Humsafar organizes also needs to cater
to that section of the society which for the large part will
prefer to remain "unseen/closeted yet gay". They
will be the ones who will still be very much a part of gay
future, as much as is a "flamboyant flaming queen".
I know this is a difficult issue to address but to be able
to think and accommodate everyone so as to create a "safe
space" for all gays at large and to bring about awareness
in the LGBT community, to me that is a more complete goal
of "gaydom". Because that will mark the beginning
of the lifestyle many of would choose to live and in the meantime
help in acceptance of LGBT at large.
Well although I have penned some of my views down, a lot of
rethinking has to go into it... this is at a stretch an impromptu
opinion of my view of the trust and where it should be headed
to. Hope my 2 cents helps contribute.
Uffe
Gartner
UNDP, New Delhi
A
few words on Humsafar Trust and your relationship with the
organization?
I have known Humsafar since the early 90'ies and been following
its development and successes from the outside through out
the years.
Humsafar has been the pioneer organization advocating for
the rights of men who have sex with men in India. The organization
has also taken the lead in developing community based programs
to reduce the vulnerability of the MSM community to HIV/AIDS
and support its members already living with the virus.
Both professionally and personally my relationship with Humsafar
has always been very warm and direct. Humsafar has always
been ready to support initiatives taken by UNDP in the area
of HIV/AIDS and I have personally learned a great deal about
vulnerability, stigma and discrimination faced by MSM including
those living with HIV from working with the organisiation.
What role has Humsafar played in your
life?
Humsafar as a community based organization has been an important
source for inspiration and realization of the importance of
participatory bottom up approaches. The organization has demonstrated
that for successful support to people who have been pushed
to the margin of society one has to build on the resources
within these communities. By enhancing MSM's capacity and
empowering them for effective responses the organization have
made a great difference in the lives of people infected and
affected by HIV/AIDS. The work of the organization today stands
as an uncontested model/best practice.
Anything specific that you would like
to share?
The feeling of family and community spirit in the Humsafar
Centre is never failing. Anyone will as soon as they work
in feel at home. That kind of warmth is unique and at hart
of the success of Humsafar. Keep growing stronger!!!
Dr.Venkatesh
Chakrapani
Researcher / Skin Specialist, Chennai
A few words on Humsafar Trust and your relationship with the
organization?
I came to know about the Humsafar Trust when I read some articles
in relation to my MSM research during my MD. I was introduced
to Mr. Ashok Row Kavi by Dr. Subha Raghavan through e-mail
and I met with Ashok and Humsafar staff when I came to attend
the 2000 conference organized by the Humsafar Trust.
Now I see the Humsafar Trust as an organization with whom
I would like to work with since Humsafar has a huge potential
to make things happen and to change things. I'm glad to learn
from the Humsafar and would be very glad if I can be of any
small assistance.
What role has Humsafar played in your life?
The Humsafar Trust has shown that committment of a few individuals
can change the lives of hundreds and thousands of others.
In that way, I must have learnt many things through Humsafar
- through its activities, through its management and staff,
etc. I'm learning to act locally while thinking globally -
like the Humsafar.
I came to know much more about the various identities and
labels during my stay at Humsafar for more than a month in
May 2001. I was also motivated by the Humsafar Trust (indirectly)
to open a clinic exclusively for MSM in a community organization
(SWAM)
once I went back to Chennai.
Anything
specific that you would like to share?
Humsafar has enormous potential in bringing together various
groups in spite of the differences among those groups. With
strategic leadership, efficient management and field staff,
Humsafar Trust is making a history.
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